Bands & A Sense of Ownership

This is a post that won't really make sense to some of you, but I've been musing and ranting about this to Kels for a while, and I feel like it's finally time bring it up and get my thoughts out there. This post isn't meant to off-put any of you or make you feel bad, it's just something I've been noticing, more on the G+ side of things. 

These are my feelings. Just that. 

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I feel like sometimes when I talk about the bands I love, you don't get it. 

You know that I like them, you know that I have an embarrassing surplus of gifs of them, you know that I think Patrick Stump is a precious muffin, etc. 

But you don't get it. 

There are three bands that mean the bloody world to me. 

Fall Out Boy. 

My Chemical Romance. 

Linkin Park. 

I don't like them because I think a band member is attractive. I don't like them because they're popular. I don't like them because someone I admire does.

I love them because of their music and what it means to me. Because of what they say, and what they do. How they've helped me realize something.Yeah, I find Patrick Stump to be pretty adorable, but I love him because he's the one whose been slowly helping me come to terms with the fact that I'm alright with how I look and that I shouldn't give a second thought to what others think of me. And Gerard? He's kept me smiling and believing that everybody's got a good side to them. That I shouldn't judge anyone without knowing their full story. 

 I love certain bands because of how they go out of their ways to help others. How they tell you, it's going to be alright.They mean so much to me because when I'm feeling horrible, they're what makes me feel better.  They're that little bit of sunshine behind the gray clouds some days, and I know I sound like an obsessed idiot, but that's how much they fricking mean to me. 

That's not what I want to focus on in this post, though. It's one part that I felt I needed to clarify, so that the rest of this will hopefully make more sense. 

To state something bluntly: 

I hate it when somebody tells me I've "gotten them obsessed with--" 

You made the conscious decision to look more into what I was talking about. You learned about something from me, but I didn't get you obsessed with them. Didn't force you to listen to them. And honestly, when people say stuff like that, it makes me upset. 

I'm afraid to talk about bands that I've discovered and that are now close to me. It seems I can't mention one without suddenly seeing someone go,"HEY GUESS WHAT, I NOW LIKE ----- THANKS TO ADALINE WHO GOT ME OBSESSED WITH THEM." 

It makes me upset, honestly. And I've seen it happen more than once, and to other people. 

Everything I'm trying to say is best described in the picture above, I suppose. It's a weird thing, and I can't really describe it the way I want to. 

And I'm not ragging on people who listen to a band's music and don't care about knowing members. I'm not ragging on those who only know a few songs. Heck, I'm not ragging on anybody. I'm writing this to just get something off my chest.This is just another one of my controversial, probably ignorantly written posts. 

I have a selfish part of me that wants to keep at least one band to myself. The last one that means a lot. I know there are some of you who'll understand that there's that one band, that one person, that one book, that you want people to like and know of from a distance, but nothing more than that. Because it means something tremendous to you. It's the thing that comforts you when everything seems to be going wrong or tumbling down. It has value to you. It's comfort to you. Kind of like a security blanket. And when others try to like it just for the sake of getting attention, it's like they've cut off a part of your blanket and taken it with them, not truly understanding what it means. 

Did this make sense? Probably not. 

But it feels nice to have written it and gotten it out there. 

This post wasn't addressing anyone who has really taken a band to heart after hearing about it from another Blogger. This post was about the people who think liking bands is a fad. Something you do to fit in, get likes, whatever. I know there are people who are going to think this post concerns them, and it doesn't. If you've found a band, a book, a movie, or whatever, through this blog, and said something like,"Adaline got me obsessed with-" I'm not upset at you. 99.9% of you truly care about what you've discovered from this blog and I know that. So don't fret about this post, okay? It's just me rambling, as always.